Being concerned about what others think is one of the biggest mistakes people make. Rather than focusing on whom they want to be and what they want to do, many people live their lives more concerned about how they look to others. Deep down inside you know that you can achieve great things and becoming a genuine star, whatever your areas of passion and expertise. You need to become who you want to be in both your life and your career. Take charge, build confidence in yourself, and be exactly the person you should and need to be
The following are some that has helped me:
- Face your fears – challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exaggerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.
- Forget your failure, learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don’t limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can’t succeed this time. Try again, you’re wiser and stronger. Don’t be trapped in the past!
- Know what you want and ask for it. Learn about being assertive – you deserve your dreams to come true!
- Reflect on your success. No-one else will! Isn’t everything easier when you take time to help yourself? Make a list of your successes and focus on the positive.
- Talk – We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behavior can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don’t assume you know why or how.
- Don’t be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt, are you? Doesn’t everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach.
- Understand and inform yourself about self-esteem and take action.
- Don’t fall into depression. If so see above
- Don’t worry about what others are thinking
As I was talking to a friend of mine about training and educating people for changes she reminded me the difference between attitude and behavior. Here is T.C.’s quote “You can change behavior but not the attitude”.
She is right, here is Oxford dictionary’s definition for:
- Attitude: A settled way of thinking or feeling about something.
- Behavior: The way in which one acts or conducts oneself, especially towards others.
Having said that, we need to reflect on what we do or can do (Outward expression) versus what we really think or feel (Mindset).
We might have positive, negative or neutral views thinking but our outgoing mask speaks a lot about us. We want to be positive for the goals we have, happy family, work environment, jobs, school etc.
According to Maxwell Maltz, ‘Self-image’ is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.
~Maxwell Maltz (March 10, 1889 – April 7, 1975) was an American cosmetic surgeon and author of Psycho-Cybernetics (1960), which was a system of ideas that he claimed could improve one’s self-image.
In short work on your behavior. At the beginning it will be hard but you will make it and you will be successful
We use this expression to tell if a particular situation could be a cause for Optimism (half full) or Pessimism (half empty)
Shakespeare put it this way when he said “there is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so”
We can also say the glass is there. I think the people that think that way are more detail orientated and follow Joseph Rudyard Kipling (An English journalist, short-story writer, poet, and novelist) philosophy ‘I keep six honest serving men (They taught me all I knew) their names are what, Why, When, How and Where and Who’
- What is in the glass?
- Why the glass is here?
- When did the glass get here?
- How did the glass get here?
- Where the rest of the glass content is?
- Who filled it up?
- What should we do with it?
And many other questions can you think of?
1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following Statement- ‘My purpose is to __________ today.’
5. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2017.
7. Make time to practice meditation and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
18. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In 5 years, will this matter?’
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. Time heals everything.
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)‘Hey I’m thinking of ya!’
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished ______________.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World & you
certainly don’t want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
40. May your troubles be less, may your blessings be more, may nothing but happiness come through your door!
- The boss drives people; the leader coaches them.
- The boss depends on authority; the leader on good will.
- The boss inspires fear; the leader inspires enthusiasm.
- The boss says ‘I’; the leader says ‘we.’
- The boss fixes the blame for the breakdown; the leader fixes the breakdown.
- The boss says ‘go’; the leader says ‘let’s go!'”
–H. Gordon Selfridge (American-British retail magnate)
Yes But-er – They kill companies, even entire industries.
- The yes but-ers have all the answers.
- Yes but we’re different.
- Yes but we can’t afford it.
- Yes but our business doesn’t need it.
- Yes but we couldn’t sell it to our workforce.
- Yes but we can’t explain it to our shareholders.
- Yes but let’s wait and see.
- All the answers. All the wrong answers.
- The yes but-ers have all the answers.
Why not-ers move Companies
The next time you’re in a meeting, look around and identify the yes but-ers, the not now-ers and the why not-ers.
God bless the why not-ers. They dare to dream. And to act.
By acting, they achieve what others see as unachievable.
Why not, indeed?
Before the yes but-ers yes but you right out of business.
- The average life expectancy for men was 47 years.
- Fuel for cars was sold in drug stores only.
- Only 14 percent of the homes had a bathtub.
- Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
- The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
- The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower.
- The average US wage in 1910 was 22 cents per hour.
- The average US worker made between $200 and $400 per year.
- A competent accountant could expect to earn $ 2000 per year.
- A dentist $ 2,500 per year.
- A veterinarian between $ 1,500 and $ 4,000 per year.
- And, a mechanical engineer about $ 5,000 per year.
- More than 95 percent of all births took place at home.
- Ninety percent of all Doctors had no college education!
- Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which were condemned in the press and the government as “substandard.”
- Sugar cost four cents a pound.
- Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen.
- Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.
- Most women only washed their hair once a month, and, used Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
- Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from entering into their country for any reason.
- The Five leading causes of death were:
- Pneumonia and influenza
- Heart disease
- The American flag had 45 stars …
- The population of Las Vegas, Nevada was only 30.
- Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and iced tea hadn’t been invented yet.
- There was neither a Mother’s Day nor a Father’s Day.
- Two out of every 10 adults couldn’t read or write.
- And, only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school.
- Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at local corner drugstores.
- Back then pharmacists said, “Heroin clears the complexion, gives buoyancy to the mind, regulates the stomach, bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health!” (Shocking?)
- Eighteen percent of households had at least one full-time servant or domestic help…
- There were about 230 reported™ murders in the ENTIRE U.S.A. !
- It is impossible to imagine what it may be like in another 101 years.